Leather Family Chronicles (![[info]](http://l-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} leatherfamily) wrote,@ 2007-03-20 07:46:00 |
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exerpt from Jack Rinella's column this week---Gifts
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Too often we fail to see the importance of 'giving' in what we do, that BDSM
is not only a mindless act of desire, but that rather it is more correctly
a gift of self. The best of what we do is the gift of both selves.
It is not only bottoms who are called to give. Tops, too, must give of
themselves by freely being who they are. It is a strange idea that I can
best please Patrick only by being the selfish, sadistic, and demanding son
of a bitch that I am. It is only by taking what I want, Patrick on the cross
as an example, that gives him what he truly wants.
Odd but true is that the worst thing that can happen is that aTop/Master/Mistress goes 'soft' on their bottom/submissive/slave. Love is a beautiful thing but it can be deadly when it upsets the balance.
Love enough to continue to hurt and take.
Luisa
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Too often we fail to see the importance of 'giving' in what we do, that BDSM
is not only a mindless act of desire, but that rather it is more correctly
a gift of self. The best of what we do is the gift of both selves.
It is not only bottoms who are called to give. Tops, too, must give of
themselves by freely being who they are. It is a strange idea that I can
best please Patrick only by being the selfish, sadistic, and demanding son
of a bitch that I am. It is only by taking what I want, Patrick on the cross
as an example, that gives him what he truly wants.
Odd but true is that the worst thing that can happen is that aTop/Master/Mistress goes 'soft' on their bottom/submissive/slave. Love is a beautiful thing but it can be deadly when it upsets the balance.
Love enough to continue to hurt and take.
Luisa
