D/s is also about nurturing
Dominants have a responsibility to look after and look ahead with submissives’ needs in mind. They take care of us; make our lives easier and more pleasurable and share themselves and their lives. We should not fall into the complacent position that a bit of sensation now and again is all that is necessary. Submission is a gift to be cherished and a submissive is human being to treasure.

If we accept submission without considering his/her future and what we would be able to offer down the road, we would be doing him/her a disservice and not taking care of our family. We never know what the future holds, but we have no business accepting submission especially on a 24/7 basis (even though they may not actually reside fulltime with us) if at anytime they would be disadvantaged for having been with us. That isn’t the romantic side but it is the caring and practical side.

Sue has been given an ankle bracelet (6 medium sized bells thread by a thin leather thong to make an anklet) of bells.

Those bells remind sue of where her heart is. They serve as a reminder that she is possessed. The bells are not only a reminder of her submission but her own personal growth. There are 6 bells and each is meant to signify an aspect of personal growth, a reflection. Each reflection will then been translated into a symbol which we will all select and a symbol will be engraved on each of the six bells.

Sue polished each bell carefully before they were threaded together. As each bell was thread, we talked about what they would mean and we talked about sue and her submission. Each moment spent putting it together and discussing it meaning including those moments when Jackie (sweetsurrender) teased her by singing “Slaves bells ring, are you listening”, were positive and loving. Bright and positive energy was imbibed from all us.

However, because I’m a sadistic bitch, I have also devised a pleasurable way to remind Sue that we love her and want help her grow as a person...~EG~

Sue has been given the task of being able to distinguish each personal growth reflection based on the tone of each bell. I ring a bell and Sue identifies the reflection engraved on it. I might add that the bells sound similar, but I bet you would have guessed that.

The mere mention of the bells has already begun to evoke the desired effects; she recalls the areas of herself she wants to learn more about and gets hot as hell because she knows I (or Kat or Rach) will be watching her, studying her while she tries to distinguish which bell is which.

We are determined to help her to succeed at this task…~g~ utilising teasing and tantalising ways to help her practice. Perhaps one night we will use fire and ice to reward the correct answers and identify the wrong ones; another night stingy and thuddy and possibly even a stretch to pleasure and pain. We are dedicated to the cause….~s~

Admittedly, I will take great pleasure watching her level of anxiety build, her body flush with the warmth of anticipation and her eyes twinkle as she reluctantly delights in feeling the fear blank her mind.

If it isn’t fun stop doing it and move on.

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